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Originally Posted by stewie
^ her parents are divorced, just the mom used to be a dog trainer like 20 years ago.
id love to have her mom help train my dog, but she lives an hour away and works crazy hours to keep her nice house with all her nice toys that go along with it lol. I only see her mom on Friday nights for a few hours, and Saturdays.
I didn't exactly apologize to her, at most I said "im sorry but im not trying to make you mad".
I didn't want to let my dogs in, but if I didn't, my doors would be destroyed, which is why when nobodys home, hes gotta go in a kennel. my parents wouldn't hear him scratching, and if they did, all they would do is make him leave the area, and 2 minutes later he'd be right back wanting in.
I don't think im being a doormat, she knows she can try to pull fast ones on me, but in the end its always her who's the one who caves.
oh well though lol, to me this is just a pebble on the road, not even a speed bump.
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well sounds like her mom is really busy and you'd probably only get to ask her for advice once in a while.
and it sounds like your dog isn't well trained enough to be able to him roam free (or the fact that he's young). I dunno man. maybe you just gotta keep him in a kennel.
either way, it doesn't matter what I said, and it doesn't matter what you did.
the reason you posted this is cuz she's being stupid over something really small for whatever reason or mentality/perception she has.
all you gotta ask yourself is this... is there anything you can do to make her change? does she want to change? is there anything anyone can do to get her to change?
do you want her to change?
if she doesn't change is this relationship sustainable? even if it's a pebble on the road... how many pebbles can you deal with before your shoes get fucked up and you have to start using your feet. then how many pebbles can you stand till your feet are fucked?
is this something you wanna deal with on a regular basis? if you get married... for the rest of your life? (assuming she doesn't change and you don't divorce)
lol obviously you are looking for a way to deal with this, preferably not just some temporary band aid right?
i duno man. you gotta think about the balance of how much you're willing to deal with this, and if she's willing/wanting to change... how hard that's gonna be, and if it's going to be worth it.
if you keep doing the same thing, if she keeps doing the same thing... nothing will ever change. you'll be walking on pebbles forever.