Just a small thing to add to the handful of very helpful opinions of others, is that she may have left you for another reason. I remember when my girlfriend and I broke up, it was quite difficult to get the real reason out of her.
Simply put, the timing of your relationship and meeting of each other was off. Take the experience and let time heal you. Be grateful that there is a new girl in your life. It might not be the best thing to tell this new girl that you are still getting over your ex. She may see you differently or choose to take a break from seeing each other. On the other hand, if she really does have great interest in you, she may try to convince you of what mr_chin stated (support you in your state).
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Originally Posted by mr_chin
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First and foremost, do not use this new girl as an object to get over your ex (which seems like you already are). I think this problem here is much more important and you need establish that personally. If it's truly the case, then it is only fair that you let this girl know that you're in the stage of getting over your ex (but many would not recommend you do this obviously).
Secondly, to get over someone you once loved is not easy. First thing to start with is obviously get rid of things like gifts, pictures, letters, etc. that reminds you of her. At the same time, avoid places where you've two shared the most memories.
You have to be on constant reality check, and I can't stress that enough. What's happening here is your mind is not in its conscious state whenever you think about your ex. You have to snap out of your daydreaming and remind yourself that now is reality. Keep yourself busy and keep yourself from going back into daydreaming.
Every time you're with your new girl and every time you look at her, remind yourself how wonderful you are now that you've found someone that will share a future and many memories with you. Dwelling on the past only leave you in depression and worst comes to worst, you might even lose this new girl.
Last but not least, do not blame yourself that the relationship with your ex didn't work out, it's nobody's fault. Only thing you can blame is time, the timing was off. At the same time, you were probably going into a mid life crisis where you have to worry about your career/future and education. A lot of people get through this without losing anybody/anything but it's not easy. Everything was planned all along, and no matter what you could've/should've/would've done, the outcome is still the same. It is because of this downfall, you possess better traits on caring in a relationship, you have the opportunity to start new with this girl and try to perfect the imperfection between you two. Take it as a blessing.
Good luck my friend.
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Would thank you x2. OP please take this advice. Especially the bolded.