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Originally Posted by Lomac
I'm sure most of you know that I'll be one of the last people to say this, especially since I'm fairly tolerant of different cultures and their way of life, but.... fuck. The one thing that I can't stand is the whole "face" issue. "Gotta look good in front of everyone, even if it means spending every last penny to rent an expensive house and car and survive on Ramen noodles." Or, "So-and-so embarrassed me, so I'm gonna get them back by humiliating them through the media." Or some other such trivial bullshit like that. Who fucking cares what your neighbours think about you? I couldn't care less if my neighbour comes home in a Pinto or an S-Class, or if they rent a basement suite in East Vancouver or own a house on the UBC Endowment Lands. Trying to make yourself look better in front of people who don't know you and couldn't give a fuck about you past the half-second glance they give you just confuses me and makes me want to 
In fact, knowing that someone is trying to make themselves appear "better" than they really are makes me even less inclined to take the facade at face (haha!) value. If they're willing to lie about that, chances are they're willing to lie about something even more personal... and that shit I don't tolerate. |
This save face thing is deeply rooted in Asian cultures and it is not always a bad thing. Hard to explain. She probably grew up in a dog eat dog environment where it's every person for themselves and fuck everyobdy else.
She just couldn't deal with her inadequacies in a civilized manner.
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Originally Posted by SkinnyPupp
Also I thought of this story today when I had to go to Uniqlo to pick something up... The staff couldn't communicate with me very well, and were SO apologetic.. I felt like such a scumbag that they had to apologize because I don't know Japanese... I am the one who should be apologizing! That's when I thought of this cunt, and how she reacted to basically the same thing  |
In Japanese culture, putting oneself's interest above others is somewhat of a sin. To inconvenience others and being thoughtless makes one look like an uncivilized individual and brings shame. Having said that though, they are not always like that when not in public - amongst friends and family, a different story. Again, hard to explain.
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BTW, off topic, but if I looked like her (picture without sunglasses), I'd be all pissy, too. Some people just look angry and miserable even when they are smiling....... not that she's smiling very much. I don't like it when people wear sunglasses (cannot see eyes), but in this case, she needs to wear them 24/7 - ugly inside and out. She's not quite as bad as Integra girl, but close.
EDIT: I just saw pic again........ Joe is giving the woman the Obama handshake. The subtle, "I have control of situation" shake - where you put other hand over the other person's. It's a politician's handshake, too, so who knows.