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Originally Posted by guddagudd
So I'm coming down from a shrooms trip and I've been snapped back to reality. And it may seem funny that I use reality after saying I just did shrooms but I really mean it. I often go through life with this defense or this ego built up, and it's actually ironic because I I acknowledge this barrier on a subconscious level, and I don't want this barrier but somehow it just naturally builds up.
My question to you guys is, for the people that can constantly, or without a second thought shatter this ego, how do you do it? How do you go through life without this sense of false pride or ego?
Sorry if my thread makes little sense, my brain was heavily used during this trip, and I am mentally exhausted.
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Oh man... ego... I can't count how many times this ego had made me do things I didn't want to do, or regret doing.
Here is my insight. Like Ulic said, when you go on a day to day pattern living with this ego, it'll grow on you.
For example, my supervisors and his crew leaders. They're filled with ego, well, that's because that's what they do. One little constructive criticism, correction, or opinion will tip them over (visibly).
Ego, like everything must be balanced. There is positive and negative to your ego, depends how you use it. I learned to not live with my ego and pride controlling over me, rather, me controlling over it. Takes awhile and requires a series and routine of behavior that you must get used to.
Here it goes... first, admit your mistakes. That is the first to improving ANYTHING. Don't give yourself reasons to cover up your mistakes. For a while, even your posture will reveal how you deal with your mistakes, which leads to number two.
When you make a mistake, acknowledge it. For example, you're walking down the street with a chick or a friend, and you tripped on something. Laugh about it. Follow up with a "WTF was that" look or a "I'm ok (pretending nothing happened)" look, but make it obviously because you want to show acknowledgement. Another example, you make a claim or something, but later found out it's incorrect or you were wrong, joke about it. Usually when I do something wrong at work and my colleagues sees it, I'll just be like "I knew that, I was just testing you," and we laugh about it.
When you receive constructive criticism, open up your mind and take it like that is a part of you that needs some changes, especially when you continuously receive them from different people.
Stubbornness tends to build your ego. The more stubborn you act towards things like apologizing, forgiving, etc. your ego sores through the roof.
Apologize when you do something wrong, even if it isn't directed to anyone, apologize to yourself. Forgive people when they do something wrong to you, especially if it's not worth fussing over. Stop whining and complaining and thinking about why that person (is doing, or generally, him or herself) annoys you. Ranting about a colleague or friend to another friend is fine, but don't act on it, meaning don't build hatred or anger towards that person. You will tend to act out your emotions when that person is around.
Like vafanculo, have the "I don't give a fuck" mentality. But be warned and use this wisely as it can have a counter effect, and raise your ego even more.
Drop the standards on your point of view of different aspects in your life. For example, if you find something that you think it's embarrassing to do, go do it and stop thinking that it's embarrassing.
Don't feel shame about anything. Have the "I don't care what you think" attitude and go do it. Like wearing a pink shirt. It'll probably hurt your ego if you wore it to work... go wear it. I used to hate wearing color clothing. When I bought my first red shirt, everyone of my friend made fun of me. Still, I kept wearing it, and eventually lead to blue, green, yellow, neon green, etc. There are still some friends that comment my matching of clothing, but I could careless. I usually just respond with, "I'm the red power ranger, don't mess," and we just laugh.
Anyways, I'm tired of typing and it's just going back and forth. Hope this helps.
EDIT - Also, I wouldn't recommend resorting to drugs as your solution. Use it to understand why you have this barrier and what causes it.