[El Bastardo]

The following is an anonymous post from a Revscene member

Looking for some insight on this.. need some help whether to keep it going or cut all ties and try to move on.

Throughout the tail-end of summer I became romantically involved with a woman who very recently came out of a 2 year long relationship. We essentially slept together two weeks after she had left her ex.

Very early on it wasn't either of our intentions to become romantically involved - the chemistry was just incredible and the conversation flowed effortlessly. It became obvious there was feelings there and we eventually got together and spent many nights with one another. If this matters, we slept together a total of 5-6 times in a span of 3 months? We established exclusiveness very early on, which in retrospect might have been a mistake.

When she went away for holidays she would text me constantly, whenever she had a chance, and when she went to Vegas she felt obligated to keep distance from other guys keeping my feelings in mind.. and here's where things kind of fell apart.

Her ex continues to message her on the regular just to catch up and I have a feeling that got the best of her emotions. When she came back from Vegas she was distant... and never made an effort to see me. On impulse I called her out and that scared her.

On the same day that she continuously told me she missed me, that evening she decided that she needed things to stop. She wanted to be single - her mind was confused and she felt guilty for moving on so fast. Exclusiveness scared her as she didn't want to have to worry hurting me, not necessarily because she wants to see other guys (I'm the first she's been with that hasn't been labelled a boyfriend.. she's had 2 boyfriends.)

Anyway, it's been about 2-3 weeks since this happened. At the end of things she sent me a couple paragraph texts emphasizing that her feelings for me were real, and I wasn't a rebound. It was more so that she's not ready for another commitment so fast after moving on from her previous relationship. She left the text saying that she still likes me but just needs time alone for a little while and wants to talk on occasion.

Talking on occasion has lead to IG posts about missing me, random reminiscent messages about the things we did together (i.e. workout, OOTDs etc..), snapchat conversations here and there.

Now here's where my emotions come into this. The beginning was very hard to deal - I couldn't focus on school, nauseous feeling in my stomach and lost my appetite. It's come to a point where I can continue conversation with her but it's obvious I still have feelings for her. She says she doesn't know what the future holds for us but wants to go with the flow.

My main question for you guys: should I continue conversation and hope that it eventually leads somewhere more or back off now to save myself from disappointment / it's too late to rekindle that kind of physical relationship?

If you have any questions please ask. will check back regularly and respond!!