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Originally Posted by El Bastardo
The following is a reply from the anonymous original poster
When we have conversation, she still initiates and keeps it going. If I reply neutrally without shooting back a question she'll fire one back my way. An update as far as today goes... we've essentially chatted the entire day - nonstop unless we were both busy (shes at work or something)...
For the time being, should I continue with conversation? Or stop replying at some point... and if I do stop replying and she messages again, what then? I understand she wants her space but she's clearly interested in keeping continually chatting.. If I oblige and stay on her mind, will this turn into a friendzone type thing? I feel like if I crack the question too often and see where she stands, it'll just push her away. She's not one for serious conversations unless she wants to have them.
I don't know if it's obvious but I want this to go somewhere. I'm willing to wait, but I want to make sure I take the proper steps.. I don't want her to forget about me. If conversation goes dry, should I check back in once in awhile, surprise her and say hello?
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I've been in this situation before and it seems like she's just filling in a void. After her breakup with her boyfriend she missed the feeling on being with someone. You came in to replace that void. She may not really like being with you as much as she just likes being taken care of. I know this sounds harsh but that's what it appears like from the way you're telling your story. She wants to be apart, realizes that she misses someone being there, then texts you to make sure she still has that someone to take care of her. It's a stupid mind game and I personally think you should tell her it's unfair to you, and unless she wants something more serious that you should stop talking. This will make her very upset, but only because she knows it's true and can't really say anything back. Good luck, I hope it works out for you.
BTW, when this happened to me, I confronted the girl. She got upset and we stopped talking to each other for a bit. It hurt at first but I truly realized that was the best move for my personal well being.