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22 to 31 IS a big "age" difference in regards to place in life, but if you are comfortable with where she is in HER life then I think it may be okay.
You have a more intimate relationship with her and her family, so it is not like you are picking up some random 22 yo from a bar and hoping she doesn't still have a teddy bear on her bed. If you know her maturity, if you know where she in in her life, if you know her habits, job, goals, attitude, and are comfortable with all of it, then you should go for it.
I would be hesitant if you are thinking, "oh, she would be great if.....she didn't still fight with her parents...or if she had a stable job...or if she wasn't so emotionally immature" but they way you describe her, she sounds kinda cool.
We can all sit back and look at how we have grown since 'x' age but OF COURSE we have. She will grow too but so will you....doesn't mean it is a bad thing.
The only thing YOU need to reconcile is how your relationship with her parents will change and how do you deal with the friendship if things turn sour? You will no longer be their friend...you will be the daughter's boyfriend. Your choice to date her is a big one...it would be like dating someone who has kids - a lot of people may get hurt if it doesn't work out. Its a lot to think about, man. On the other hand...there is always the chance you guys will have a great future together.
I wouldn't worry so much about the age thing as I would about the family. At the end of the day, however, if you feel it with her....go for it!
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