This one goes out to all of you, whether you are single or in a relationship.
I got out of a relationship some time ago with a really nice girl, because we had "few" things in common... To be honest, it was a rushed relationship. Had I not been an idiot and gotten to know the girl more, maybe it never would have happened. During the "Honeymoon" phase, things were great.
However a few months after, the differences started to become magnified. We would go out to eat, having very few things to discuss; other than commenting on the food; or on a long drive, we would have times of silence. I see some couples out there like this, just eating rather solitary and making small talk; However I also see couples whom by the time they eat their first bite of food,
its already cold!
I envy and respect those couples, having an SO that's not just your other half, but also your bestie, your BFF. Someone who you could talk to for hours... yet also not just be a good friend.
This isn't to say that I did not enjoy her company. In fact looking back, I feel incredibly guilty for the way I would treat her sometimes.
This brings me to my next point. I supposed what happened below is Karma, coming back to bite me in the nuts.
I met a girl, back during the summer (She approached me, actually :O). We hit it off. We were "in sync", we both loved EDM and hip-hop. We even bumped into each other at a rave and shared an unbelievable experience. We were both into fitness, and my interactions with her just seemed like everything I wanted in a relationship.
I made it clear that I was interested in being more than a friend... She seemed receptive. We met up and just cuddled and watched a bunch of movies until the wee hours of the morning. I thought I had it going well for me. Fast forward to a few weeks ago, I wake up to a text from her. I'm not gonna go into detail about exactly what, but basically the message was "
I'm not into you that way, lets just maintain a
platonic relationship."
I was... flustered. I was
confused,
angry,
disappointed, yet
glad at the same time.
Confused because I thought we were progressing well.
Angry because... well shit, you could have told me earlier.
Disappointed that after 5 months of awesome interactions and what I thought was great chemistry; that I end up friend zoned. Yet, I was
glad... relieved more like. It felt like I no longer had the pressure of "impressing" her.. or have to "chase" her.
How could I continue a platonic relationship with her? Clearly I want to be more, yet I don't want to just cut her out of my life. I just don't feel like I could ever be just "Friends" with a girl that I have feelings for. Maybe I'm unable to let go of my feelings.
Only time can tell.
So how many of you guys out there, have friends of the opposite sex that you have had feelings for? Or even still harbor some romantic feelings for? How do you deal with that?
If you read this,
thank you. I just had to rant a bit.