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Sharing a story:
So I met this girl let's just say T through volunteering. Now this was 2 years ago, back when I was in second year university. We hit it off, she was completely talkative, very friendly and flirty. I liked her. I liked her a lot. We talked frequently on the phone, we had a blast during dinner, we liked the same things (clubbing at that time). Then she kind of faded out, I don't know what went down but she started becoming colder. It was then to the point where I was desperate and tried making plans with her and she would flake every time. That's where I left it, after having met her for about 3/4 of a year, we stopped talking altogether.
I couldn't get over her. Until a year later. I would think back to all the fun times we had, moments we shared, experience I had. I had a slight epiphany. Throughout this whole situation, I was meeting other people. And it's so hard to find people you click with. Everyone's in a clique and it's very very hard to invest all the time and energy into people and it takes two to build the friendship or relationship.
So I sent a message to her on Facebook. "Hey it's been a while, let's catch up". That's all it took. We went out for dinner and really just caught up in a flash. She has a boyfriend now and I no longer like her. We talk about the same stuff now and she's in my close circle of friends (still building the bond).
TL;DR, My premise is that it's difficult to find people you click well with, while you're just being yourself. From my experience is that sure having a lot of "facebook friends" is great, but what's even better is having less really close people who are there for you. My story is an example of that. It's a lot easier to connect with people with similar interests. What I would do is that I would still build that connection with them, because you never know when you're going to be in need of a friend.
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