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I used to hate this... but as I got older I realized it had more to do with my personal insecurities than the guy himself. I was so bad that if I even saw porn in my exs computers, I would delete it then play dumb if he asked me if I went on his comp and saw anything lol.

Now sometimes he watches it when we're together and it tweaks me out a little but I recognize that has to do w myself so I dont give him shit for it. I'd rather he watch it, even w me around than actually go and fuck someone else so I don't kick up a stink. I'll even help if he wants me to but for the time being I don't feel that comfortable watching him watch it so I just focus on my task lol. In the bigger picture, there are much worse things guys can do to outlet their horniness so we have to give you guys credit for that too. Guys will always be guys and you are a visual creature so it's natural, we just have to accept that and not take it so personally.

This is something more personal that she has to work on herself, you cant really coddle her in this area because you're just enabling this insecurity that she has with herself. Maybe have an open, honest, nonjudgmental discussion about it. Tell her you respect how she feels but as a man, it's a natural thing and she shouldn't feel threatened by it. Possibly implement a 'dont ask, dont tell' rule.. respect her when shes around by not having it in blatant obvious places where she can see it if she agrees to respect your needs as a man and whatever you do on your own time is your business. Reassure her that you are attracted to her physically otherwise you wouldnt be with her in the first place.

Its pretty hard to point out someones insecurities without offending them, so use phrases like "How does it make you feel? Why does it make you feel that way? Is there a way we can compromise on this issue?" Be honest but respectful. Be firm but fair in compromise.

I don't think promising to stop will serve either of you....because you will eventually cave and maybe feel guilty, then if/when she finds out she's gonna flip her shit because you "lied" to her. She will then question everything you ever said to her and turn into an accusatory non trusting cunt, you will be unhappy on both ends and your relationship will not survive because you'll resent her for trying to change a natural habit you've probably had since preteen and she will never trust anything you say leading to bigger problems in the future.

PS: I find girls who dont like oral really selfish so that already minus' some points in her book for me. LOL @ the comment of her feeling like just a sex toy. Nigga please, if she enjoys it as much as you then wtf. She has a very warped opinion on sex, she needs to work on that.