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I can only speak from my personal experience...
I dated a girl (my first actually) for a few months. But my own immature quirks hurt her enough to dump me. For example, i made fun of maple ridge, but she grew up there. And her love for leopard print.... Sigh haha. I loved the person she IS. But her past (of drinking, pot headedness and trouble) is a girl i would have never associated. In my lack of relationship experience (of being 18-19 years old) i did not realize that she had to be that person to become who she was today. And if i can't love all of her, which includes her past or future, that it wouldn't work.
She was right.
Afterwards we both had very shitty relationships and a year or two after, i got a text from her randomly. We hung out a few times, went for coffee, the zoo etc. shared our shitty relationship problems and such. I could feel she was definitely falling for me. But then i asked how long it was between her breaking up with her bf before she texted me. Reluctantly she answered "about a week" and i did not want to be a rebound guy. We both realized that people may evolve and become different, but they never rreeaalllllyy change. We walked away have never spoken since. That was about four years ago.
Do I wonder what my have been? Sometimes. How can I not. But I do not regret my actions in the slightest. I say keep seeing this new/old woman. But be prepared to walk away if you get a bad gut feeling
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