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Originally Posted by JKam
Well what would you do about it then? All you can do is support this person and hope that they don't "relapse". That's pretty much how you support recovering addicts isn't it? Of course it might bother you but what are you going to do about it? You either accept that it's going to be a rough ride and stay until the end or you get off and move on. Not saying you ignore it and pretend it didn't happen. you just deal with it.
All relationships require a leap of faith. This one is no different.
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and like dealing with recovering addicts, if you blindly go into this with all faith and no reservations you run the risk of getting full on screwed.
i'm not saying OP has to run away or be an asshole. but i'm saying a little caution isn't the worst thing in the world.
it's better then the full on hippy love fest. forgive and forget everything. uh no that's not how the real world works.
obviously as their relationship progresses OP and the GF will have this drift away in the past. but it's crazy stupid to pretend like it doesn't exist. at some level she needs counseling to make sure this is a dead issue. not something lurking and waiting to rear it's ugly head again.
but hey love fixes everything right? let's all just stick our heads in the sand because things are going ok RIGHT NOW. yea sure that always works out well for both parties.