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Ulic Qel-Droma · 03-17-2014, 02:35 AM

when you're ready to find a girl again, remember, you'll usually get the same results if you do the same things. you'll see the same type of people, if you look in the same places.

it's only that hard to find someone compatible if you don't look outside your bubble. whether it be a type of sub culture, a part of town, or a city.

there's a whole earth out there. there are plenty of compatible people.

as for when you contact her... don't try to "control" her. aka acting authority/advice giver. don't try to tell her what to do, or remind her of all those good times. or whatever. you've already lost that power. the more you try to persuade her, the more of a grave you're digging yourself (an example is very easily seen on RS. When someone gets butthurt, even if an OP is right, the people will hate on him. no matter how right or how good his persuasion is. their perception of him has changed so much that nothing they say can help). you're that OP right now. and she knows your game, and she's not on your side any more. everything you say is wrong.

the only thing you can do is accept what has happened. and contact her once in a while and keep the conversation short and sweet, like when you first met her.
you have to start from square 1 again.

and don't expect anything soon. and by soon i mean months, if not year or years.

patience, and time are the only things on your side now. everything else will fuck you over. don't try.

not only does time have to wear you to the point where you're not a pussified beta. but you also have to wait till time has worn her to normality again too.
that will take... time.
probably a lot more than you like.

but that's the way it is. accept it, or accept that you're gonna get too eager and bury yourself.
those are the only two options you have.

Btw, i know you don't feel like it now. but you will eventually... it isn't hard to be chatting to like 3-7 chicks everyday consistently. you can put your eggs in more than one basket. you can date many girls at once. while still messaging her once in a while. if you don't "want" to do that cuz it doesn't align with your values. then you are limiting yourself. that would be your own problem.

03-17-2014, 02:35 AM	#20
Ulic Qel-Droma I keep RS good Join Date: May 2001 Location: Cosmos Posts: 28,736 Thanked 5,599 Times in 1,524 Posts Failed 889 Times in 301 Posts	when you're ready to find a girl again, remember, you'll usually get the same results if you do the same things. you'll see the same type of people, if you look in the same places. it's only that hard to find someone compatible if you don't look outside your bubble. whether it be a type of sub culture, a part of town, or a city. there's a whole earth out there. there are plenty of compatible people. as for when you contact her... don't try to "control" her. aka acting authority/advice giver. don't try to tell her what to do, or remind her of all those good times. or whatever. you've already lost that power. the more you try to persuade her, the more of a grave you're digging yourself (an example is very easily seen on RS. When someone gets butthurt, even if an OP is right, the people will hate on him. no matter how right or how good his persuasion is. their perception of him has changed so much that nothing they say can help). you're that OP right now. and she knows your game, and she's not on your side any more. everything you say is wrong. the only thing you can do is accept what has happened. and contact her once in a while and keep the conversation short and sweet, like when you first met her. you have to start from square 1 again. and don't expect anything soon. and by soon i mean months, if not year or years. patience, and time are the only things on your side now. everything else will fuck you over. don't try. not only does time have to wear you to the point where you're not a pussified beta. but you also have to wait till time has worn her to normality again too. that will take... time. probably a lot more than you like. but that's the way it is. accept it, or accept that you're gonna get too eager and bury yourself. those are the only two options you have. Btw, i know you don't feel like it now. but you will eventually... it isn't hard to be chatting to like 3-7 chicks everyday consistently. you can put your eggs in more than one basket. you can date many girls at once. while still messaging her once in a while. if you don't "want" to do that cuz it doesn't align with your values. then you are limiting yourself. that would be your own problem. Last edited by Ulic Qel-Droma; 03-17-2014 at 02:43 AM.