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I am near the same boat Alby and fully agree with him. 9 years this May for us.
I met my girl friend in high school and we have discussed marriage. If it was financially feasible with our life plans, we would be married already. Maturity comes to people at different ages.
Though there is a risk of her slipping into her past partying ways, she might be done with it. Taking the op's comments at face value, the gf appears to be taking responsibility of her rape and moving on. Rape might be the event that tipped her over to end the partying lifestyle.
As others have said, there is a risk in everything. How you deal with risk is what defines you.
I would recommend you the op, to have a conversation about her past and your insecurities. Let her know your fears and see what she thinks of her past. Have and open and honest discussion.
Ignore the whole "beta/pussy" male thing. You could go try to mend to the "strong alpha male" persona, but are you really giving her the real you? You value her honesty. Does she want the honest you? This issue is eating at you; enough to ask strangers on the internet for advice.
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