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Originally Posted by snails
i get what your saying.. in a world of 6-7 billion people whats a couple hundred.. peanuts..
but we are talking about closure.. that only matters to those involved.
as goes for my situation. if you talk to anyone that knows me the first thing they will tell you is how lighthearted i am in bad situations. there is always a silver lining.
but thinking about it now. knowing my dad just up and disappeared and didnt know what happened to him. that shit would haunt me. i think about his passing MAYBE once a week.. thats not to say we didnt get along but i get the concept of moving on. unfortunately its not something one can choose to do. kinda like telling someone not to have nightmares.. or saying the word "RED" and telling people not to think about red things. they can do things to avoid the situation.. but you cant control your thoughts, that gut feeling and being kept up at night wondering about this.
again. if this was me. i rather open the door and see my dad hanging like i did.. then have had him do it elsewhere and me never know that he had even passed away
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yes, i understand you rather of seen what happened.
but im saying what if you didnt? cuz you didn't have a choice anyway right?
like yes, i agree... you cant control your thoughts all the time. but you can certainly try to change that.
im saying what if he did up and disappear? cuz u have no choice and power in that situation... you WOULD be more haunted and thinking about him more. i agree with that. BUT... you cant change the result right? so wouldn't you at some point of your life, have to seriously try to accept and move on?
what im asking is, at what point would you accept? at what point will the family's of the victims try to accept?
cuz unlike you, they didnt get to see what happened. and there's a huge likely hood they will never. so... how does one deal with that? that's what im trying to get at.
sure, hope for a miracle of the 0.0001%, but the 99.999% HAS to have more weight and bearing than the 0.0001% right? i mean its 99.999%! i mean, think about it... being held down your whole life cuz of some 0.0001% thing or looking at it with a right mind and seeing that 99.999% is MOST PROBABLY what happened and the story MOST PROBABLY will stick to that probability... and you MOST PROBABLY will have to deal with that for the rest of your life.
then what? what choice do you have? what person in their right mind would NOT want to try to move on and accept? the person that holds onto that 0.0001% chance i guarantee will have a miserable and sad life.
let me give you an example:
if in 2 years, one or some of the families of the victims still are bringing this up, and suing or demanding closure... how would you perceive them?
what about 10 years? what about 20? 30? 40? 50?
what if enough time has passed that most of those people would have died of natural reasons already?
at what point does demanding closure seem ridiculous? never? that cant be correct.