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Originally Posted by reamemiya
I'm assuming when people say closure, that means to move on.
I think what Ulic is trying to say is, don't put the responsibility of being able to move on, from any incident, in other people's hands.
Only that person has the power or responsibility to decide when they are ready to move on. If that person requires external force (evidence, prove, etc.), what if those things never show up?
When someone realizes that they may never find out what happened, they will realize the power to move on have or have a closure ultimately have always been in their hands.
You can be sad as long as you want, but don't put the blame on others for not being able to move on.
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Oh for the love of... yes, moving on is ultimately determined by the individual, but you can't just flip a switch and move on. It's not a choice it's a process, and for most people knowing what happened to someone makes it a hell of a lot easier. I don't think anyone said anything about blaming others for not being able to move on. You can't blame them, but you can certainly thank them if they bring you answers and help with the process.