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Originally Posted by PARANOiA-R34
I don't want to raise the unpopular elephant in the room, but BOTH people who are in relationships can have tendencies to "let themselves go", not only physically but sexually as well. Maybe that is an issue.
I hate to be that guy who blames the woman, but this looks to me like a simple case of the man losing interest for whatever reason. From personal experience it is primarily either physical (i.e., not working out anymore/gaining bad weight, not caring about wearing make-up/looking nice, not dressing super sexy anymore b/c you are comfortable with the relationship) or sexual (seducing him, having really rough, sweaty, interesting sex, etc.)... do you have to do these things all the time? No, but you (and he as well) should be doing them enough so that neither party gets disinterested. Just my $0.02
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I agree with what you're saying to a certain extent, but I think it's innately programmed into some people to always seek 'better' -- and although this isn't necessarily a bad characteristic (it'll make you a very successful in your career), it makes for terrible relationship dynamics. You were attractive because you were unattainable, the excitement of the relationship was 'attaining' you, once that has occurred, consider it the peak of a roller coaster and it's only a matter of time until you are just 'normal' to him, and he goes on to seek something 'better'.
I know quite a few friends that have done this (guys and girls), but they're young, so it doesn't really matter I guess (assuming you buy into the social norms/'sex-specific best before dates' that suggest a woman has to find a man by XX years whereas a man can wait until XX years)