[El Bastardo]

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have being going out with this guy for 10 years. The first four years it was on and off and then went on a break twice after that...

I am now 30 years old and we have talked about marriage, but he has yet to give me a straight answer. He is 38 years old.

He keeps saying that he wants to make more money and he is too focused on his job, etc. He has a good job right now, he is making just a little over $65k/ year. I make around the same. We do not live together, I feel that we shouldn't until we're married.

Am I being completely unrealistic? My parents aren't pressuring per se, but they are questioning what his intentions are with me. I honestly feel like i'm being strung along, but I have invested so much with this guy I can't see myself with anyone else. We have talked about this so many times and he has assured me that he loves me and I am the only one he loves, but actions speak louder than words.

I am okay with being engaged for two, three, or even four years, I just want to have assurance that we'll get married. Like I said, i'm 30 and I think i'm past my prime already. Where would I even start if I needed to date again? I guess it's better to start at 30, then at 35?