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Originally Posted by jello24
I'm a grown man so I decided to man up with a girl I've chilled with for 9 months. Wasn't even afraid of doing it, I just knew it was something I had to do.
And, yeah... I haven't hung out with her in a month now.
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i give you props for that.
even if it didnt work, you at least made clear your intentions. instead of wasting say--another 9 months
on another note (not directing this at you jello24):
the most common problem i see with guys is that they fall into a friendzone because they do not make their intentions clear upfront.
or they are just too NICE. they basically become the girl's bitch:
-picking them up at a whim
-buying them food and delivering it
-doing homework for them
-becoming a sounding board for all of the girls problems (which very often include other guys shes seeing)
as Alex Burrows said: 'give your balls a tug'
All humans have a predatory sense. not that we are inherently evil, but there is a natural sense of who is an easy ride and who commands respect in the room. Command some decent amount of respect as you would in any part of your life (work, nutrition, the way you dress) and apply it to your dealings with potential mates
As with any meaningful relationship, it needs to be a two way street. in terms of what you bring in intellect, power balance, and interest