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Originally Posted by Pegacorn
My parents fought constantly while they were together and I think that was far more damaging to me than their divorce was. They divorced when I was 16 and I had a rough time well into my 20's, but it had more to do with the emotional damage of their hatred for each other and my dad's double life. Getting divorced was one of the best things they could have done and it probably would have been a lot less traumatic if they had done it a lot sooner.
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in the same boat. parents were always fighting, which would occasionally culminate in my dad breaking something or my mom crying. as a young'n, those events scared the shit out of me
they eventually separated when i was 16, on not-so-good terms. my mom called the cops claiming that my dad held a knife against her throat (can't confirm, as i wasn't there), and they show up at my house and cuff him.
since then, both parents have tried manipulating me; my mom rationalizing the litigations, and my dad telling me he never laid a finger on her.
being pulled in both directions has led to me becoming insouciant. every time they bring up any superfluous bullshit, i turn my brain off and let it in through one ear and out the other.
i'm actually thankful that they split. the man of the house was gone, so i had to step it up. i matured a ton from ages 16-18 without my old man around