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A divorce of a married couple will definitely have some sort of psychological trauma on the children, especially the younger one and at a younger age. Another important point is, how was it expressed to the children.
My parents were divorced when I was around 11 or so, and it did traumatize me psychologically. Even though I am much older now and was told the truth what really happened, nothing will ever make the feeling of who was wrong when I was 11, go away. Therefore, even today, I lean to trusting one side of the gender more due to what happened when I was 11.
The benefit of my parents divorce gave me a lot of opportunity to learn on my own and take my own steps. Everything I do now, I do it to my best with or without support because that's how it had been for the last 18 years of my life. I've learned many things the hard way, harder than a lot of average teens. Most importantly, I consider that my mind is much stronger than most people. I really don't care how people think of me or what they say behind me. Or even in front of me, but this took a while to learn because I was much aggressive and angry when I was younger.
The way my parent's divorced was exposed to me, made me a straight up person. I will ask questions if something bothers me, most of the time, creating a very awkward moment for people who likes to give hints, which I really don't give a shit about. If someone has a problem with me, but don't say it, I will most likely confront them on the spot. Because I was never loved like most kids have from their parents, I learned to not love others as much as they expect me to...
Which brings the bad side of having divorced parent. I can instantly turn off my feelings for anybody whenever I want mainly because I keep emotional distant with the people I know. I have and don't have best friends because anybody can become my best friend and at the same time become a stranger. I'm traumatized by negligence from my parents divorced, so I tend to stay away from anyone emotionally. The people I am emotionally attached to, is a very small circle of people, and they know about my past.
In general, a person with divorced parents will have a difficult time raising their own children in my opinion. It's a very common psychological thing that, a boy will most likely follow in his father's footsteps and become like his father. Not entirely, but a lot of the father's bad habits and traits will be inherited by the boy. I think in order to tackle this problem, one must know the root cause of it, so for anyone with divorced parents raising a child, keep this in mind and always think about how your father was like to you, and not be like him to your child.
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