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parents
anyone here in a relationship where your gf/bf/husband or wife doesn't like your parents?
if so, does it bother you at all?
if your parents wanted to have a random dinner on a random sunday and your spouse said "you can go im staying home" im sure you'd be slightly offended, and your parents probably would as well.
i know the saying "you dont marry the person, you marry the family" and for me, a large part of my family is italian which means lots of family dinners, close with all my cousins, we do favors for each other etc etc.
anyways, my gf isn't a fan of my parents. she grew up since a baby with just her mom and sister (only a year older than her). every family argues and fights. example - my parents, been married long enough to the point where they can yell at each other calling saying the dirties words possible to each other, and then be back to normal an hour later. my mom was a "house wife" while growing up. dad went to work, mom stayed home with me and my brother, cleaning hte house, cooking, taking care of the yard etc. so when my gf comes over and sees my dad say things like "whens dinner going to be ready", she gets offended. now, my family aint perfect, but just about every friends parents i know are the same type. they argue, bitch, complain. gf was never exposed to that growing up so shes not used to it and gets easily offended.
how would you guys handle or attempt to get her into realizing that its not that uncommon? as is, she hates coming to my house (i have epilepsy, its not easy for me to do shit on my own), she wont come for dinners anymore, if a aunt or uncle wants to host a dinner, she refuses to come so i go alone and get the whole "where is she??" from everyone.
anyone go through this? we've been together for a few years now so just dropping her isnt exactly my ideal option lol
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