Like Great68 said, this isn't new. Adjusting to the in-laws is ...an adjustment. In-law jokes have made people a lot of money. We don't get to pick our families, we just love and accept them and do our best. It's the same with in-laws. I can understand she has a busy schedule and maybe doesn't have a lot patience for your family on top of that, but she needs to figure it out. I get it, I work in the mental health industry, I go to school, I volunteer, and I have very little left to give at the end of the day, but I suck it up when I need to, because I know what's important in life. It's not like you're having dinner with your family every damn day. If she's with you, she's part of your family, unless you're okay with being with her but her not being part of your family, which could get awkward. I think this welcome mat sums it up for me:
