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Originally Posted by PeanutButter
Wow. That would be a deal breaker for me 100%.
You're Italian and she doesn't want to come to family dinners? I'm surprised you haven't broken it off already.
I bet she can't even cook half as good as your momma. All joking aside, I don't think she understands how big of a deal this is to you. If she can't do this for you, I don't feel she deserves you.
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well, tonight i get a text from her.
(for a quick fill in, i had a brain cyst causing me to have epilepsy for the past 2 years, and i finally had brain surgery last week to remove it and rid me of seizures)
i was discharged from the hospital on sunday, she hasn't seen me since saturday.
her text says shes not happy anymore. she hates my parents how they're rude, childish, and racist(to a degree I'll admit they are), and she hates my dogs with a passion. a german shepherd and a rotty/shepherd. the german shepherd is almost 2 years old but hes a puppy still and wants to play all the time so him and my other dog like to rough house all the time.
anyways, the texts....we start talking, she goes through the whole shit saying we're on two different side of the tracks, and she doesn't think it'll last. we've been together for almost 3 years, my parents love her, and i think shes amazing and i was hoping she would be the one. so, while i was in the hospital last week, our parents met for the first time. my brother had come and he had brought his 1 1/2 year old son who was constantly running around my bed and playing peek a boo with the other patients in the room (they all liked it). often my mom would play the grandma role and walk out of the room to grab him back and take him for a quick walk when he started to get fussy. her mom thinks my parents are rude for not engaging in constant conversation with her instead running off to play with their grandson.
the texts continued all night tonight, her saying I'm to positive in situations, which i am. i don't get stress. i can easily handle almost any situation I'm thrown in. its extremely rare when i get stressed out. it ended in me telling her shes to fucking negative and its as if she goes out of her way to find things that will piss her off...and that was the end of the convo. no good night no nothing.
I'm not sure now as to if i should just let her walk away or if i should continue to fight. with her negativity, i often find myself in doubt that she'd make a decent wife because if its not her way, its nobody's way. also that she has the ability to hold her temper as much as a 7year old can. but then there's other situations where shes the complete opposite which gives me faith that shes worth it.
suggestions?
ps - even though I've had surgery to rid me of epilepsy (had a chunk of my brain removed), I'm still unable to drive for a minimum of 6 more months, I have to live at home because of it for the safety reasons that have happened before. I'm 27, 28 this month, if she walks, I'll be out of the dating game for a while, and I'll now probably get labeled as someone who has "baggage". the surgery wont know if it was a success for another year when they start to slowly ween me off my anti epileptic pills. if i have a seizure after that, the surgery was a fail, and i get a 6 month driving ban. I was always hoping that I would be married by 30 with my own house, and that dream is starting to fade away from reality.
I'd still like to hope that things can work out with us, but at the same time i think there's the possibility that i wont lose any sleep or care if she walks.
fucking women piss me off so much. her sister and husband always tell her that she has no idea how good she has it with me and that before i came along, she acted like she didn't even care that she had a family and wouldn't talk to them outside of work (they all work at the same company), and now they talk to each other and she moved back home to save money and she hangs out with her sister everyday since she lives in the basement suite.
as for the cooking part, its true, she cant. WHEN she does come to my house for dinner (we don't eat together) she always tells me how good the food is and that she wished her mom could cook like this. at her house, her mom doesn't cook. its like every man for himself. she'll cook for herself and her mom, her mom doesn't appreciate it, and she eats the leftovers which pisses her off. since she doesn't ask if she can have them, and her mom even eats it if they're in a container and she knows she wants to take it to work the next day.
I'm in such a fucking brain fuck right now.
i don't know what to do. i really don't want us to end, but at the same time, like she said, shes not happy anymore and "things used to be different". its almost as if this is a regular thing where she pulls stunts like this. we broke up once...it lasted for a day before she ran back. if we break up again, shes not coming back.