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It's almost as if she was just waiting for the surgery to be over so she would feel better about ending it. It sounds like she's done and seemingly hates a lot of things in your life. Seriously, she hates that you're so positive? I'm guessing that's a big part of who you are. She doesn't like a core feature that makes you YOU. That's a huge red flag. It also sounds like you have enough doubt about her that it would be a painful and unnecessary mess to try to force this one to work. As for your dreams of being married by 30, you're a dude, you have time. Your ovaries are not going to shrivel up and die. It's pretty rare that people are happily married and own a home by 30 these days. It's OKAY to update your 5 year plan every year and revise your plans. Life is fluid. I thought I'd have kids by 28. Turns out I'm going to be 35 when I start trying, but you know what? I can't imagine having had kids at 28 now. So many other awesome things were going on in the past 6 years. The time wasn't right. It is now and I'm ready and I don't feel like I'm going to be 7 years behind my plan, because I have a different plan now.
Honestly, I'm wondering what her redeeming qualities are, and if they're worth the immmature and judgemental behaviour she has exhibited. Sounds like you can do better and since this surgery it sounds like you'll have more freedom in 6 months and maybe you'll find that you have more self-worth than you give yourself credit for, and you don't need her as a crutch.
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