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TOS'd · 10-06-2014, 12:53 PM

Posted on behalf of a friend.

I wanted to get your input on this situation about what you would do and/or what would make you stop, if this is "normal" behaviour in your opinion.

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I broke up with an ex over a year ago. It was on not on good terms, as there were already a number of issues during the relationship. I had no intention of ever speaking to him again, because he simply made me miserable.

It dragged out for much longer than it should've and a number of people I knew, that knew about him, said I should've called it quits long ago based on the things he did.

He was a compulsive liar, and would make up stories about having ex-girlfriends that made him feel insecure, and have me feel bad for him and eventually even pity him. He would have yelling fits, when he didn't get what he wanted. He was quite selfish and irrational, but I just shrugged it off.

He would constantly complain about all my friends, and say how they were all intentionally out to get him, and how much of a threat they were. He would get upset every time I was out with my friends, and he would expect me to tag along with him while he does his own thing or goes out with his friends.

After it ended, he would constantly contact me, asking to hang out and be friends, and commented on anything I posted on social media. I already deleted him off everything, but he would use his friend's accounts to creep on my stuff. He would ask me to help him learn to talk to girls, to talk about cars, hobbies, and what-have-you.

I had already given him back all his stuff, for some reason he wanted to keep my things and even held it hostage, saying I would have to hang out with him to get them back.

Anyways, fast forward to today, he would always text me consistently every time he sees my car somewhere and asks me what I'm doing there, who I'm with, etc. even though I've been ignoring him all this time. I already told him I have no intentions of being friends with him, as we were not friends prior to dating.

It is becoming stalker-ish as he would ask if I'm at home or not if he doesn't see my car, or if I'm working at a place, or out somewhere. Apparently he says his friends see me around and report to him where they see me, which is pretty messed up.

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Why would anyone carry on with this behaviour?
If you were friends with this guy, why would you encourage it or help him?
What would make you stop?

As always, everyone's opinion would be much appreciated.

10-06-2014, 12:53 PM	#1
TOS'd :inoutugh: Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: YQB Posts: 10,036 Thanked 5,890 Times in 1,860 Posts Failed 970 Times in 279 Posts	Is this "normal" behaviour in your opinion? Posted on behalf of a friend. I wanted to get your input on this situation about what you would do and/or what would make you stop, if this is "normal" behaviour in your opinion. START I broke up with an ex over a year ago. It was on not on good terms, as there were already a number of issues during the relationship. I had no intention of ever speaking to him again, because he simply made me miserable. It dragged out for much longer than it should've and a number of people I knew, that knew about him, said I should've called it quits long ago based on the things he did. He was a compulsive liar, and would make up stories about having ex-girlfriends that made him feel insecure, and have me feel bad for him and eventually even pity him. He would have yelling fits, when he didn't get what he wanted. He was quite selfish and irrational, but I just shrugged it off. He would constantly complain about all my friends, and say how they were all intentionally out to get him, and how much of a threat they were. He would get upset every time I was out with my friends, and he would expect me to tag along with him while he does his own thing or goes out with his friends. After it ended, he would constantly contact me, asking to hang out and be friends, and commented on anything I posted on social media. I already deleted him off everything, but he would use his friend's accounts to creep on my stuff. He would ask me to help him learn to talk to girls, to talk about cars, hobbies, and what-have-you. I had already given him back all his stuff, for some reason he wanted to keep my things and even held it hostage, saying I would have to hang out with him to get them back. Anyways, fast forward to today, he would always text me consistently every time he sees my car somewhere and asks me what I'm doing there, who I'm with, etc. even though I've been ignoring him all this time. I already told him I have no intentions of being friends with him, as we were not friends prior to dating. It is becoming stalker-ish as he would ask if I'm at home or not if he doesn't see my car, or if I'm working at a place, or out somewhere. Apparently he says his friends see me around and report to him where they see me, which is pretty messed up. END Why would anyone carry on with this behaviour? If you were friends with this guy, why would you encourage it or help him? What would make you stop? As always, everyone's opinion would be much appreciated. __________________ Posted from NE 1-J W Inglis Building Last edited by TOS'd; 10-07-2014 at 11:46 PM.