[Mr.HappySilp]

Need some help from RS (or rather looking for suggestions).

So I meet this girl through close friends. She is in China and I am Vancouver. We been chatting for about 6 months so far. She came to visit around June for a week and we hung out a few times during that time. I also went back to Beijing recently for a tour and we meet up and spend around 3 days together. Things are going decent we communicate just fine but there are issues from time to time (language barrier and culture differences). We usually video chat everyday for about an hour or so. Now I know I have to make descion soon because afterall this is a long distance relationship and I don't want to waste both of our time and effort unless we are both 100% into it. I do have some doubt about this whole thing.

First we won't be able to see each other often (maybe 3 to 4 times a year for maybe 1 to 2 weeks each time.). So it will be difficult to actually get to know someone and how you feel about them. So most of the time we will be alone which to me seems ok for now but I am sure in the future there will be a time when we want to more often just to have the other person there with you to experience your joy, to have someone there when you needed support just giving you a hug, just to hang out and do gf/bf stuff etc etc.....

Second I am not sure how she will feel/be when she moves here. No friends, no family or relatives and to a totally new country with little background is pretty hard. So she will need a lot of support from me (I don't mind and prepare for it). But in the end she will have face a lot of challenges alone. So she needs to be a really strong person but I don't feel she is that type of person. Also her education and work experience won't apply in Vancouver and she will most likely be working min wage jobs for a long long time or work in customer service relation jobs which she said she refuse to do. She is a primary teacher in her home town (not a big city but a pretty small one). But reality is she will most likely get a min wage job. I will need her to work simply because I am not power by parents and does have bills to pay. I can support myself just fine but with a mortgage it will help a lot to have another income to support the family.

Third family issue. My family are pretty easy going so they don't really care too much as long I am happy. I am not sure how her family feels though. She will be moving to Vancouver (got that point across to her) so she won't be able to see her family as often as she wants. I am not sure how her family will react to it. I did meet her parents once over lunch and they seem to feel that we are going to get marry like this relationship is set in stone. I was a bit shock by it (again most likely different culture).

I talk to a really close friend and one of my aunts and they both said if I am not 100% sure or isn't committee I should cut ties with her right away. I do like her, she is very talkative and friendly and we get along fine. But the fact I have to make a decsion now I am not confortable with since I only meet her twice each time lasting maybe a few days. Is not enough for me to decide. I guess when I date a girl I usually hang out first to see how it feels then start dating them. Even then is really casual (more like testing waters). Things don't usually get serious till a few months into it.