[xmisstrinh]

First things that come into my mind while I read your post is first: will your peers get along with her? Because let me tell you, when your friends don’t like your SO, it’s a long, hard processes to get your friends over to the other side. It took me nearly 3 years to convince my friends that he is right for me, and they all doubted our relationship 110% from the beginning because of cultural differences, different upbringings, and because my parents are extremely conservative (dad still will not accept it). Knowing that your parents is easy going gets you over the first bump, then comes your friends.

Then there’s the thing where “you really get to know a person when you live with them.” What happens when you decide that you can’t live with her because she’s dirty/messy/lazy? Send her back to China? Taking this gamble will depend on how much you want to commit whilst on this LDR.

And finally, with regard to her parents being okay or not okay to her moving here. We don’t know her family background, but most Chinese parents I know would be absolutely stoked for their child to marry abroad to North America.

This should be something that you and her should have a serious discussion over. Sometimes people will say things like “yes, it’s okay, I’ll do it for you” and “I can deal with the hardships and suck it up to be with you” etc etc… They just don’t realize how hard it is and how much it sucks when they’re actually in the situation. At that point, if they wanna call it quits and leave, you end up looking like an idiot for believing that person. If she’s really serious about you, and wanting to have a life with you here, maybe you two can look into getting her a 6 month student/work visa to test the waters. Good luck!