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Originally Posted by slingblade
New girlfriend has been great. Beautiful, nice to talk to, similar interests, and crazy high sex drive. It's been a month of good times now. The only thing is... she is still not over the dude she was casually banging a few weeks before we met. She tells me she doesn't talk to him anymore but I see on Instagram she is all over every one of his pictures, even the recent ones. So I looked at his followers list and didn't see her name in the mix. Yup, I guess she regularly searches him up manually just to send him little online hints that she still likes him. Fuck it. Nothing's ever perfect and thats okay.
How should I handle this situation? If I bring it up, then I'm an overly possessive creep (which is true but I don't exactly want to show that lol). If I just ignore it, it just stops me from feeling intimate with her. Really hope I could get some input from you guys...this shit is bugging me a lot
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Best thing to do? Ignore it.
If you're going to do anything, be prepared to commit yourself fully or you come off as weak. That weakness is not attractive -- you never want to make a girl think you need her more than she needs you -- especially within the first couple months
What do i mean about committing yourself fully?
Giving her passive aggressive remarks about the guy / bringing up the guy in the midst of a fight = weak = not fully committing to your decision.
If her actions with the other guy bothers you that much, tell her in an adult manner and tell her you don't want to talk to her while she's still got feelings for him. After about a week of no-contact she'll come running back to you ... or be back with the other guy.
tl;dr -- leave it as it is, or confront it head on