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have you thought of:
Sell the gf's parents home, combine your income, parents income, gf's income and qualify for a mortgage so you can get a detached home with a basement suite or two.
Let the gf's parents move into the basement while you and her ocupy the upstairs.
The financial burden will be split in 3.
There are plenty of people having babies around 34-35. Find out what the potential issues can be, if her parents had her late and she turned out to be ok, you might be ok too.
The grand parents can help with baby sitting while you and gf work to pay bills.
The only caveat to all this is you and the gf need to go to city hall and get married on paper - forget the fancy wedding for now. Get it in writing so both of you will be committed to carrying out the plan. There is no greater motivation than not having a divorce title over your head. If you remain bf/gf none of this will work and might as well break up on the weekend.
Commitment and Communication leads to long lasting marriages, not #YOLO.
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Sometimes we tend to be in despair when the person we love leaves us, but the truth is, it's not our loss, but theirs, for they left the only person who couldn't give up on them.
Make the effort and take the risk..
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't." - Eleanor Roosevelt
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