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Originally Posted by El Bastardo
Life style. I hate to say it but I know if I decide to continue this relationship. There will be quite a financial burden put on me. There will have to be some sacrifice and my currently life style will probably be affected.
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What is your "lifestyle"? If you prioritize things, given your situation, is there anything you can easily give up? (eg. eating out all the time, driving a fancy car, other toys, etc.)
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In my point of view. If I stall this for any longer and for say we do break up. I cant help but feel like i've wasted a good amount of her "youth". I know times ticking for her. I don't want to end up changing my mind and putting her in a position. Which shes single and already past her prime. (sounds kinda bad but I'm just being brutally honest)
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Don't continue to be in a relationship predominantly out of pity.
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Those are the main concerns I have. Didn't bother including smaller details like if we were to get married. Where would we even get the money?
It would be nice to hear a outsiders opinion on my situation.
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From the sounds of things, and excuse me if I'm being presumptuous and completely wrong, that you two are chasing a life that revolves around money. Which, there's nothing wrong with, but keep in mind all the initial stresses that come along with it.
Food for thought.. My closest friend and his wife are probably the happiest couple I've ever seen in my life. Late 20's, combined income of around $70k (which if you divide evenly, puts them each at only around $17/hour), no car, renting a 1br apartment, and they're even playing with the idea of having a kid in the next few years. Their wedding was very low-key, but still honest, down-to-earth, and fit them perfectly. They don't have much, but they're not stressed, not starving, they still have time/money for hobbies, but most importantly, they're happy. I'd be damn lucky if I'm ever half as happy as these two.
This isn't to say that they'll be at this financial point forever, but if you think about it, they can get raises/promotions at work, land a new job, etc. So in their current state, things can only get better.
At this point, does your desire for having kids/owning your own home/sticking to your current lifestyle outweigh your desire to be with her? No wrong answer here, you just have to be honest with yourself in what you want in life. If your long-term goals are completely different from hers, it may be time to part ways.