[El Bastardo]

The following is a reply from the anonymous original poster

- She is currently living with her parents
- I'm not looking to adopt. Maybe i'm old fashion but I want my own flesh and blood
-My current lifestyle is comfortable but by no means extravagant (I eat out from time to time and I drive a honda)
- Do I love this girl? I think about her daily, have concerns of her well being, and genuinely like being around her. I think I love her but question it myself because people keep saying if you love her it shouldn't matter..
- Her father has a gambling problem, which put her family into debt. Essentially, shes taken the burden of the debt and taken full ownership of the family mortg (techically hers now). As of now. From my knowledge the father isn't incurring anymore debt but is spending all his work/pension money on himself and gambling. Apparently, its not as bad but he still has a gambling problem. (This really boils my blood)



Recently had the talk with her regarding this whole thing. It took a bit of time explaining to her my concerns but I think I've gotten her to think about it from my stand point. She doesn't necessarily agree on the things I said. I tried to explain to her I needed to set some goals and plans for all this to work. I'm not entirely sure what her thoughts are about this. We strayed off topic a bit.

Overall I brought out what was concerning me about our relationship. I feel like shes was able to grasp the majority of it. We still haven't made any plan or real solutions to any of the problems. I plan to bring it up again the next time I see her but in the mean time. I've told her to think about what I said.