[jcmaz]

the trouble I am having the most is starting off from first to second gear, the shift is rough.. sometimes I do it right but most of the time its wrong. How fast am i supposed to let out the clutch when going from first to second and what RPMS?

When to shift: It really depends on your car and road conditions. Basically your 1st gear is to get the car moving. On my 05 Ralliart, I shift at 2k rpm from 1st to 2nd on flat roads or approx 2.5k rpm on hills.

I shift at 2500-3000rpm but my car jerks unless I let the clutch out slowly, is that riding the clutch?

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To answer your question: no you aren't riding the clutch. Your car jerks because you are suddenly cutting the power from your engine to your drive train.

If i hard accelerate from a dead stop, do I stay in first gear all the way close to redline before shifting to next gear? my wheels spin a lot when I attempted to hard accelerate.

There's too much torque being transmitted onto the road at once. Therefore you should slowly let go of the clutch when you accelerate.

Lastly, I am doing fairly well on an incline but when I attempted to go up a really steep hill from a stop, my tires spin like crazy in first gear, If I only gas a tiny bit, the car will stall.

Clutch modulation is key my friend. When going up hill, hold your throttle at a steady position (say 30%) and slowly let go of the clutch. On my RA, I give enough throttle to get to approximately 2k rpm and slowly let go of the clutch. But I think you should try the handbrake method instead. You pull you handbrake when you are stopped, step on clutch and engage 1st gear. Then give enough throttle and modulate clutch until you feel the car is slightly going forwards, but restrained by your brakes. Then release hand brake.

I'd try it out on an empty stretch of hill first before attempting with other road users behind you.

EDIT:

Don't bother to rev match just yet. The reason why your car is jerking is because you are letting go of the clutch way too quickly. Try moving your car in 1st gear without even touching the throttle pedal as practice. You'll quickly find out that dumping your clutch = stall and feathering your clutch = movement.