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Originally Posted by etodac

6 months ago on my birthday my partner told me that he tried to knit a scarf for me, but it was really complicated pattern and he'd never done it before and he got busy and couldn't finish it. I ended up not getting a birthday present, which wasn't a huge deal but it would have been nice to receive one. He's busy with school, I get it. He says he'd finish it by Christmas, Christmas rolls along and it's not finished. I joke that I'll get it on my next birthday and he promises* to have it done way before then. Flashback into the present and I'm quite sure he hasn't knitted at all. I poked fun at him (passive-aggressively, I know, go me, always the best thing to do in a relationship), but I stopped after Christmas because I don't want to be a nag and I thought I'd let him do it on his own time.

Sometimes when I think about that scarf, my thought process goes like this:

1. He has so much time to do other things, like Monster Hunter, but he can't find a couple hours between September and now to finish it. Sure I won't need to use any scarves until fall/winter, but he was the one who said he would do it. I didn't pin that on him, he said he would so he should just f'ing do as his promised.

2. F* this shit, I'll just tell him to give it to me and I'll knit it myself. Sure I don't have much time to do it and I'll probably get it done in September, but at least if I have it then it's on my onus to finish it and it would most probably get finished if I do it.

3. I wish he would care more about me. It's great to receive gifts and I've given him plenty. I can hardly count how many he has given me. I know I should just be happy that I have a great boyfriend, but I like getting stuff too. Taking the care to create something shows love. You don't need to be creative. You just need to motivated. And I can't see him being motivated to do many things to make me happy. He doesn't seem to be motivated to do very much these days except for playing mahjong.

4. Well, it's hard to knit. I don't know how either and it may be pretty hard to do. He's pretty stressed with work and doesn't want to think to much and just relax. I haven't made anything substantial for him. Just a few cards. Who'm I to say that he doesn't get me presents when I don't do much for him too. I can't really cook and he cooks for the both of us, albeit rarely, but still he does it and we use his kitchen too and we make a mess.

5. I'm just being too selfish. Just forget about it. There's no need to tell him, it's just a big fuss over nothing. Take a deep breath and forget about the scarf. I might get it on my birthday, or never. Don't hold a grudge. Just move on. Stop being a little bitch and being so needy. \

I get kind of down right about now. I should just talk to him openly about my feelings right? But I can't understand whether I'm being unreasonable or my feelings are valid. The recurring thought I have is that my feelings are not valid, they're petty.

Though none of you know the extent of my relationship, can anyone give it to me straight: am I a little bitch?

tl;dr: boyfriend promises to make me a scarf, doesn't end up doing. I get frustrated because I don't want to nag but I still want to get what I want. I feel like I'm just being a little bitch. Am I?

don't worry, PK-EK will make you a scarf and hand deliver it to you.

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