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if A wasn't your best friend, would you hesitate in telling love interest #1 and #2 what a no good indecisive taking good guys for granted byatch she is? my conscience would tell me yes.. but your loyalty lies with your friend and not the love interests..
have a hard talk with A, strongly condemn her for stringing 2 guys along and that she needs to stop this behaviour or make a decision before #2 gives up whatever he has to come to vancouver only to find out he's a man-in-waiting
if you decide your loyalty lies with A, then no you're not in a position to say anything. more importantly, you're not a party to the relationship(s) so don't get involved. if things goes south, A will hate you for ratting her out and love interest #1 and #2 will shun you for not telling them when they confided in you. don't be collateral damage to a 3rd party breakup.
what you can do is drop hints to love interests #1 and #2. for example: tell #2 to seriously consider his options before packing up his bags and move, think about the consequences and whether it's worth it all; tell #1 to get to know/understand A better and to not let the "head over heels" feelings get in the way of good judgement (this applies to #2 as well)
at the end of the day, it's up to them (more specifically A) to solve this problem. don't take it upon yourself to try and unwind this, it's not your call and not your responsibility. as a best friend, your responsibility is to tell A she's in the wrong and needs to get her act together.
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