[tiger_handheld]

With names.. in case anyone else found it difficult to decipher between #1, #2, A

So I've been put in a situation where my friend Alice, is between two love interests, and I don't know whether or not I need to say something to either one of these people.

BOB(#1) is Alice's significant other at the moment. Mark #2 is out of town, but has extremely strong feelings for Alice, and is talking about moving here to Vancouver to pursue something serious with Alice.

Alice and Mark #2 had something pretty serious going on, and Alice still kept a secret relationship with Mark #2 even after becoming official with Bob #1.

Bob #1 has been a very good friend to me since dating Alice, and Alice and I are best friends. It's been apparent recently that Alice will swoon and oogle at the mention of Mark #2's name, while at the same time telling me that Bob #1 has been taking up too much of their time, and is becoming annoyed with Bob #1.

Both Bob #1 and Mark #2 have expressed to me recently how head over heels in love they are with Alice. Bob #1 and Mark #2 don't know about each other.

I'm in a situation where I feel like I should tell Bob #1 what Alice is doing behind their back, but because Alice is my best friend, I don't feel like I'm in any position to say anything. It's just that my conscience tells me different. Bob #1 has been extremely kind to me since the day we met, and they're honestly one of the most genuine people I know.

I also feel like, because Mark #2 has confided all their feelings about Alice to me, I should tell Mark #2 that Alice has a significant other and that before leaving their life to come to Vancouver, they need to know the truth about what Alice is doing.... behind both their backs.

I don't know if I'm in any position to say anything to Bob#1 or Mark#2. I'm gonna have a long hard talk with Alice about everything I've been told about this situation and see what comes out of this. I feel that both Bob#1 and Mark #2 are very genuine people and don't deserve to be deceived in this way... I'm just extremely unsure if its my place to say anything.

OP - you need to talk to Alice and say that she needs to talk to Mark and end it with Mark or you will talk to Bob and start it. Neither guy deserves a girl like Alice. As Alice's friend, you have some duty to slap some sense into her and if you are scared of losing her as a friend after that, then how real is your friendship?