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Originally Posted by tiger_handheld
I thought this dowry bullshit was long gone... looks like it's still around...maybe because its rural china? Is this common in cities like Shanghai, Beijing or Hong Kong?
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Is still around in China, Hong Kong and Vancouver. But in most case is more like a symbolic amount. My sister who got marry in Dec my mom didn't receive any money nor ask for any. She knows my sister will be happy and that's more important than any amount money. My sister give my mom $5k as a good gesture. Another friend who got marry here give the girl mom #1314 as a symbolic amount for "forever". I am pretty sure in Canada is somewhat change and in Hong Kong and China you still have to pay a decent amount but no where near what I ask to pay lol.
My though was that since my gf's family came from a rural part of China to them they are still very traditional and because they raise their daughter up they deserve the money (after all raising a child cost a lot of money and effort).
My gf on the other have been studying in a more modern city, seems more and is not that traditional so to her the money is not as important and she also feels the amount her mom ask for ridiculous. However, she also feels she is stuck in the middle which is making things difficult for her. She is moving out pretty out (in a few weeks) and hopefully this will make her feel less stressful.
Funny things is her mom always think that when we were traveling in China in June we rented 2 rooms lol. I would love to see her face when she sees the box of condoms in my gf's suitcase and all those "toys" we play with
