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Originally Posted by rzrshrp
Ok I have a srs question for you all.
Do you think it's worth dating outside your race? For example for me, as a south-asian brown-skinned male I have come to learn that we are basically near the bottom of the dating hierarchy :/
But for me, personally, I don't go for girls based on their race (that is an afterthought, if anything) I usually try to date girls I click with and am attracted to (physical/personality/ambition/etc.). Living in a part of town where there are many east asian people has led me to have around my social circle of ~80% east asian friends. This naturally leads me to date in these social circles (outside my race).
As a 20 y/o my parents are starting to pressure me about marriage, and they say they will basically not talk to me anymore if I marry outside my race.
I guess my question to you all is, is it worth it to date/marry outside your race? It is probably 100x harder to date outside my race for me, and I don't know how well it works out (east asian and south asian cultures are different). If I bring home an asian/white/whatever race gf, my parents will not take it very well but if it doesn't work out with her I will be at a loss for both sides.
The problem is, is that my culture does not allow dating so openly and as a result the females are secluded from the males. So I don't know many girls of my own race (mostly guys).
I don't understand, I see people dating outside their race but rarely do they get married. It seems that it is just something that is done for fun? The most common interracial couple I have seen is white/asian, or maybe I need to get out more.
Any input is appreciated, I am confused
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Originally Posted by pinn3r
You need to sit your parents' asses down and attempt to reason with them. This is the kind of bigotry we need to abolish
You happen to find wife material.. what does race have to do with anything? You live in Canada, bro; you're free
My mom still clings onto traditional Vietnamese values. I argue with her every so often and debunk her logic. Nearly everything I choose to do is against her interests, but she's come to terms with my life choices 'cause she realizes she can't control me. This is my life buddaaaay
As a fellow 20 year-old, fuck your childhood social conditioning and fuck your parents' culture. You do you
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I think it's easier for a guy to say "mom, dad - this is my life this is who i'm gonna marry" but if you flip it , for a girl, it's extremely hard, especially if they are dependent on their parents a lot.
I was in the same boat as OP, but the girls parents were against brown skinned people. The girl was great and we had plans of marriage but at the end of the day the her parents couldn't get over it after 4+ years of dating.
The sit down and talk with the parents isn't as easy as people on RS say it is because the way white kids are brought up and the way asian/south asian kids are brought up is entirely different.
It doesn't matter if you lived 98% of your life in Canada, if you are 'first generation' you will be brought up the way your asian/south asian parents were brought up.
The time interracial marriage is going to be ok is when our generation has kids and it becomes the norm for a brown girl to marry a white boy. The other way is if our parents spent 98% of their lives in Canada when they had us or the parents are divorced (very western) suggesting they embrace these western values.
OP if you want more insights, use the search function here, you'll actually see this topic being discussed a number of times.