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Originally Posted by tiger_handheld
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The thing with friends' friends is they are all taken or are in long term relationships. We are all around the age where everyone is getting married and popping out babies.
Joining interest clubs is a good idea! The somewhat difficult part is finding time after a work day to attend these things... and showing up to a bunch of unknown folk... I'm fairly outgoing but super large crowds 
The photog class is a really good, cuz I've been meaning to learn how to use my non-dslr but manual mode camera! Where does one find such class?
Anyone tried attending anything on meetups.com?
For what it's worth, I'm not looking for a hook up...that is what tinder is for... many drinks and bat shit crazy becomes acceptable..
Just some cool girls to hang with and see if anything develops!
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It helps to have a boss to egg you on to do something. I, fortunately, have a boss who will shoot the shit with me and egg me on to do what it takes to get what I want. I swear, I would have had so much more time to spend with the girl I liked if I had listened to him sooner. Just do it. For me personally, it was like this: ask her out. If she turned me down, I'd still go back to eat the food I loved. Treat her no differently than before. I wouldn't need to be awkward any more and just I'd just know that this is a person who would just be doing her job. It took a week of my boss egging me on to just fucking get on with it. Now, I regret not asking her out sooner. Fuck me. I dun messed up A-A-Ron. But that was no fault of anyone's but my own.
This is your motivator:
Even if it didn't work out with her, a good friend of mine who happens to be a spinal practitioner who helped me with my herniated disc problem thought I should meet one of her friends. She would not have done so if I had not helped her a great deal and treated her well. I treated her well because she helped me and I was being absolutely genuine without ever expecting her to hook me up. She did, so I have no choice but to move on and guess what? I've met some new girl just yesterday and just meeting someone new helps to get over the last. Not expecting to become her significant other, but just a new friend to hang out with and show around Vancouver since she is somewhat new to town who studied in the states.
Just keep finding excuses to break out of the ordinary. At the end of the day we are all short on time. Don't have time? Shift it to make time.