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I met my bf on tinder. took a good 6+ months of talking before we started dating but hey we got there. Been together almost a year.
He told me he was afraid i'd be ugly in person (LOL) , but luckily we have mutual friends that can vouch for me that no, i am not a fuckin ugly hag in person. I keep hearing horror stories about guys being catfished, but it's the same for us girls. You see a guy post a pic of him in a group, and 99% of the time he's gonna be the fat ugly one on the side. The hot dude in the middle? Taken. Or possibly gay and taken.
People only post flattering shit about themselves and hide the ugly shit, and they do that on dates too. Make themselves sound better than they really are, and that's just stupid cuz the truth will come out eventually.
You're not gonna find the right person by faking shit or trying to impress. I pretty much gave up on dating and used tinder to troll when i met my bf. Turns out we have the same fucked up sense of humour and the same hatred for people in general.
I stopped caring and decided i'm fine with dying alone one day and then oh look...i found a guy. Looking back, relationships failed pretty hard when I tried to hard to make it perfect and have ridiculous expectations. This relationship i'm in isn't perfect, but we work at it. We have days where we're perfectly happy, and we have days where we wonder how I haven't stabbed him yet. People these days have too many expectations for what their SO should be like and that causes a LOT of disappointment.
Girls want a guy that can treat her like a princess and all i can think is "LOL no. why should anyone treat you like one." Don't get me wrong. I like expensive things too, but i also understand how hard it is to make money, so i don't expect my guy to buy me shit. If i want something, I buy it myself.
I kind of blame social media for this kind of mentality people have these days. They post pics and show off the shit they get, but they don't post pics of the crappy days. It makes people have really unattainable expectations for dating.
Also, not all girls give a rats ass how a guy dresses. my bf looks like a chinese redneck/lumberjack and I am the polar opposite. I don't care how he looks. He does clean up pretty well though. Not all girls like talking on the phone over texting either. That's something you gotta find out yourself. My bf was happy to find that i HATE talking on the phone. I'm a multitasker; i hate sitting and doing one thing at a time, and phonecalls force me to stop whatever else i'm doing. My bf and i have talked on the phone for more than 3 minutes twice over the past year, and I'm happy with that.
Just gotta take your time and figure out what you need, and be content with yourself being single before you can find that right person.
also, girls get a LOT of msgs on dating sites. It's hard to have a good conversation with anyone when the msgs just flood in. It's hard to determine who is worth talking to and who should be blocked. I probably offended a lot of guys actually. Oopsies.
tl;dr: people are stupid, dating is stupid, get 10 cats.
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