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Originally Posted by 6793026
I agree with this a lot. However, we can't even get people to read someone's online profile let alone going on 3 dates.
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Well, if someone isn't interested in replying to your message, then there's not much point in spending any more energy on that person.
I think the angst expressed here and on other Vancouver-based forums is that a lot of people seem to be limiting themselves to a particular type of mate. I get it - people want to spend their time and energy on someone who's like them. But, shared values extend beyond ethnicity, heritage, or social class.
When I read people having to "up their game" each date, it makes me sad. Dating shouldn't be complicated - it should be fun because a long-term relationship is where the work begins. It's not about spending a certain amount of money to impress (though, as I argued earlier, spending your time on the details matters). If you have to spend money, spend it on yourself - whether it be becoming more educated, more social, or more traveled.