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Originally Posted by tiger_handheld
You must be married or in a longterm relationship from your early years!
Social class - There is not a snowball's chance in hell that a guy making 30k is going to win and keep a girl making 70k. Lets be honest, our incomes dictate our tastes and interests.
Heritage/Ethnicity - Find me a cbc girl who wants to date a guy who has parents from Pakistan but born in Canada and has no religious affiliation and I'll retract this statement. Interracial dating (besides the conventional whiteguy/asian girl ) has not caught on in Vancouver and doesn't seem like it ever will.
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I got married in my 30s to a wonderful woman whose heritage is Middle Eastern. For the record, I'm a CBC (though, more of a banana than a true CBC).
To be fair, if I saw this thread in my mid-20s, I probably would have felt the same way as some of you. But in my late 20s, I decided to stop trying to chase some kind of life that I thought I wanted (or what was expected of me because everyone else in my peer group was chasing the same thing) and instead pursued my own path.
Let's face it - the reason why some men in this city struggle with dating/hooking up is because they're not all that interesting. They don't stick out from the crowd. It's not about how much money you make, what logo is on your polo shirt, or what type of job you have. It's about what's between the ears and your character. You could drive a late-model BMW 3-series or Audi A4, but so what? Such cars are a dime a dozen in this city and lack character. It doesn't matter if you spend a few hundred on some fancy firmware or spend a couple of grand on 20' rims - it's still a leatherette clad entry-level luxury car that shifts on its own, is probably full of old Tim Horton's sleeves, parking receipts, and smells like sports equipment.
What kinds of books do you read? Can you stand up in front of a group of people and deliver an improvised speech? Can you work a crowd? Do you shine your shoes? (surprisingly, a lot of men in this city don't) I could go on... these are the things that make a guy stand out and make someone interesting.
I met my wife through an activity-based club. She was initially attracted to me because I wore a trench coat and fedora to meetings. How many Asians in this city wear trench coats or hats besides baseball caps? Very few. I'm not saying you should dress like that to attract someone, but my point rings true - you need to stand out in some way.