Originally Posted by 4444
I'll give you my insight:
There are usually 2 types of relationships, 1) a "birds of a feather flock together" whereby both are driven people, in which case both can advance their career and well being by moving (my case), or 2) a bread winner with a supportive partner, in which case if the relationship is in the appropriate position, they will come along (a good friend of mine has done this, they're as happy as a clam)
Friends - easily made. once you're over 25 you have already got your close friends who will be that way for life, and it should be easy enough to make new friends, especially as most place ppl move to will have lots of people of a similar ilk from different parts of the world
being away from family isn't great, but your family should support you living a happier life. I see mine 4 times a year for 2+ weeks at a time and facetime daily. compared to when my parents moved away from their respective families in the 80's, technology makes it a lot better to deal with.
what do you mean when you say they will have to start form the bottom again? I can tell you the moment I moved away, I moved my career forward 10 years in Vancouver standards. If I were to move back to Vancouver as an employee (won't happen), my problem wouldn't be me starting from the bottom, it would be that there are too few jobs that would keep me interested (I'm sure twdm can support this position).
most of the friends you speak of who move back will do so to start a family and will just appreciate the acceleration in their careers whilst they were away, but, again as twdm will probably support, this is probably because they moved to places where having a family isn't easy (I imagine HK isn't an easy place to have children, in fact, based on all my travel throughout Asia, I can't imagine having kids in Asia). Just know, there are places where you can have family, green space, clean air, safety, and great careers - depending on your career choice.
but it's a trade off, ppl compare working/living in HK and working/living in Vancouver, this is an apples to oranges discussion. Vancouver is a shit hole for careers (seriously, before anyone says its not, it is, it really, really is) - but it's a beautiful clean, safe place - HK is the opposite, though HK is a go-go-go place where you can do so much. HK isn't for me, just as much as Vancouver isn't for me. Vancouver's not for everyone, but it is for some / many, just as HK is, just as SF is, LA, London, etc..
everyone's basket that they look for is different. For me, i've found a place I can live the rest of my life in that fulfills my basket of desires, the problem is, most people will just blindly say that Vancouver is the best without actually knowing what's out there, there is a psychological reason for this, but it doesn't make it right. there are places better in some respects whilst being worse in others - nowhere is perfect ("Best place on Earth"... Fuck off BC government, let me decide that on my own).
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