I think the ikea kitchen stuffs should hold up pretty well.
Aside from the hardware feeling really sturdy to me...they also display their kitchen cabinet in their showroom, with hundreds of people banging on it everyday and they seem to hold up for years, even the drawer auto-light. (I recall seeing the same kitchen cabinet in their showroom for at least 2-3 years, unless they secretly fix them when we don't notice lol)
The painted MDF door i picked certainly doesn't feel durable (hence why it was one of the cheapest choice, their laminate door feel much harder tho), but I liked the look. FYI I had a painted solid wood maple door from the builder. It really doesn't feel anymore durable than the painted mdf. Both will ding and nick quite easily)
I damaged one during the install by dropping a screwdriver on it. But it costs me $10 to buy a new one off the shelf.
I actually like the original kitchen I had from the builder, but the cost to "extend" it from the original kitchen company was more than buying a whole new set from ikea.
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