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From another thread I made. Mods, please delete the other one.

I posted something on a thread on VOT that was a spur of the moment thing. Below is the original post. I felt I had to move it to a new thread because the thread was about snow and recently, about Vancouverites trying to find salt that is nowhere to be found.

Anyway let this thread be about dealing with loss. I kept the news of my wife's passing for nearly a year and a half from friends. It was my wife's wishes not to make her passing a big deal, 'cause life goes on.

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When the missus is done getting dressed finally, will be heading up to cypress from Richmond.
Do me a favour, 320icar. Give the missus and extra, extra long hug. Tell her you love her. My wife of 31+ years passed away over a year and a half ago. Not a day goes by I don't think about her. I visit her every day at the cemetery. All the things I should have done when we were still together. I have so many regrets............

She was my best friend and a golden moral compass to me.

Not sure why I'm spilling my feelings out on RS, of all places, and in this thread, but maybe it will finally help in the healing process.

Although she is gone, she will always, always be a big part of who I am. She found my sense of humour weird, but she stuck with me with all my faults, and guided me.

I try to keep my chin up. Keeping busy and humour does help. And no, I will not go to therapy............. RS is my therapy.

All you RS'er with loved ones - NEVER take anyone for granted. One day, you will be without. Hopefully it will never happen to you. I wanted to grow old with the girl who stole my heart. Didn't get the opportunity. I did, however, spend a good 3 decades with her......... actually, I've known her all my life. She grew up two blocks away from me.

Anyway........... keep on keeping on.

And where's the salt, goddamn it!

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I've witnessed too many deaths in my days. My father, my two aunts, a dear friend, a friend who's son committed suicide, colleagues, etc. It never gets easier dealing with a loss of a loved one. I will never get over my wife's passing. It started during the first Operation Rev Nose night. My wife told me she needed to go to the hospital. She's tough as nails, so her asking me to take her to the hospital is a very big deal. Turned out she had internal bleeding caused by stage four cancer. One year later to the day, on the second Operation Rev Nose, she had to go again to the hospital. Another procedure had to be done. We thought we were in the clear as the doctors said they thought they had got all of it the first time. Needless to say, it got worse over time. She went from being so active and energetic to............ she fought to the bitter end - chemo, radiation, etc. and outlived the two years she was given by two more years. I recall one night, she held up both arms in the air and yelled out, "Yay, I outlived my expiry date!"

The positive thing was, she had time to say goodbye to everyone. They say it's hardest on the survivors. The pain my wife went through is nothing I would wish on anyone.



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