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Originally Posted by Hehe
First time posting in this thread as I have retired long before I ever discovered this thread. This is mainly to get some collaborative intelligence from RS (not sure if the ideal place,  but I'm out of ideas and want to see if anyone can take a different perspective)
So I have this god sister. She has always been that nice little sister I never had. Her parents take me as part of family and treat me like their own son and are among my parents absolute best friends.
Fast forward to present day, she came over the other day for a vacay with her BF from TPE, and her BF is one of those conservative TW dudes who doesn't quite get the very close relationship me and my god sister have and that we were both western raised and are very unlike the traditional TW people. Anyway, long story short, the dude somehow got jelly about the way we interacted and got angry. I was pissed and yelled at him something along the line of how insecure are you about your relationship when you can't stand your GF to have some closer interaction with other male, even when knowing fully that the base of our relationship is nothing romantic, but just true close friend.
Then my god sister got pissed too and refused to board the same flight back with him. Now they are on the brink of breakup and somehow I'm feeling that it's kinda my fault of not being considerate of her BF's feeling.
So, I'm thinking about texting the dude on Line trying to sort this shitty situation out, but I'm not sure what kind of approach I should take. Has anyone been in similar situations who can share a thought or two? Thought about just taking the dude's position and apologize... but in all honesty, I don't feel I did anything wrong. |
Some things to consider properly is this guys backround first of all:
- conservative
- grew up in asian environment
- surrounded by asian culture
People who grew up in Asian environments don't really have close relations with the opposite sex when they are "taken". He doesn't understand the difference in culture and the supporting facts that you are also considered part of the family essentially, like a brother.
He's all in the wrong IMO. He hasn't opened up to the fact that there is a clash of cultures here and is narrow minded and wants to stay that way. He's jealous of the chemistry you guys have and feels threatened which is normal as a human being but not the mature way to approach the situation. He should have taken the time to know why you guys have that kind of chemistry and how he can do better to have that same chemistry with his GF
So no you don't need to apologize to him, he just needs to wake up. Your god sister brought him along to meet you probably because she wants to introduce him to you gain a level of trust; like say for example in the future she comes over here alone and you are here to take care of her.
I have had god sisters even hold my hand/arm when we go out, but thats the degree of comfortability we have in our relations.