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Originally Posted by Akinari
Peeps I need some advice or guidance.
What do you do when you're in a situation where your SO is visibly upset, sometimes crying or bawling her eyes out, but she refuses under any circumstances to tell you why she's upset, only that her parents are mad at her?
The response would be something along the lines of "I can't tell you because I'm not allowed to" or "my parents don't like it when I tell you things".
What do you do when an SO's parents say one thing in front of you, act all smiley faced and friendly in front of you, but talk shit about you behind your back with your SO, and force your SO not to tell you?
It's so difficult and frustrating for me because I want to understand what's going on but I can't. I don't know if confronting her parents will do any good for anyone or myself either, but I'm a at a loss here.
I asked her if it's cause she doesn't trust me or anything, but she says she does.
I love her to death but I have no idea what to do in a situation like this, where I'm trying to help but she's not letting me help. Should I just give her space? And in a situation where her parents are upset at something I'm doing, but no one is willing to tell me what, what am I supposed to do? Keep my distance from her family?
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It depends really, because some families are like that. They can be very private about certain stuff because they were taught that way.
IMO, just be supportive and try to cheer her up by doing something that would comfort her... like a bottle of good wine or something. If she wants to share, she would... no need to force it. By showing your support, you already let her know that you care but respect her decision.
Also, be careful of what you wish for. The truth is not for everyone. And you might feel worse if there's nothing you could do or it's something very difficult.
I have had very bad experience with my ex regarding this and led to our breakup. So, again... be careful with what you wish for.