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Originally Posted by ZN6
@MSREE I'm sure you let him know, but at the same time, how much can you put up with it?
There's such thing as too much of anything is a bad thing.
It's sounding like it's a pretty big struggle from what I'm reading, especially if you do not respect the thing that he's most passionate about. If you feel this way and have to vent, I don't think it takes a crystal ball to see that this isn't going to be the happily ever after type of deal.
Not saying you should end it, but at the same time, you gotta let him know you aren't happy when he's like blitzed out of his mind from lack of nutrition and too much pumping.
You can only support something you don't respect for so long until you get completely sick of it. It's not good to support unhealthy habits whatever they may be especially when it affects his thought process. It's like enabling a dude doing cocaine to keep doing it.
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I'm very vocal about my beliefs so he knows how I feel about it. It's never been a deal breaker for us. His competitions are tested so he's always been natural/no roids but he heavily follows nontested bodybuilding. He loves Ronnie Coleman, gets autographed pics from pro bodybuilders when theyre in town etc. We have a den in our place thats specifically dedicated to signed and framed pics with the pros. He knows the dangers of steroids as he's seen friends do it. We still watch Mr Olympia together every year and I enjoy it since its become our tradition. He respects my opinion about it health wise because I went to school for practical nursing. I don't mind that it's his hobby and I let him enjoy it. I just want him to have ALL the facts, not just the glamour he sees on YouTube, at shows or thru IG videos.
He's been feeling the effects of stressing his body so he knows im right about competing. Like his joints have been achey post comp due to dehydration/overuse for months. He only has few more years left to do this and if he enjoys the process I can't stop him. He'll only resent me if I try. I can make sure that I keep him in check mentally and emotionally and remind him of his limits to keep him safe/uninjured. We balance each other out in the way that I can teach him to relax, and he can teach me how to get fit on my own standards.
He has other passions and he's very talented. Basketball, skateboarding, graffiti art etc. So I'm not worried that comps will be our whole life. Theyre pretty difficult but temporary. Still makes me wanna blow my brains out when I'm at a show LOL. I guess it's the equivalent to a man going shopping with his gf/wife hahaha.