[MSREE]

Relationships are about compromise. Life would be impeccably easy if you dated/married someone just like you, but is an easy life your best life? Do you love her? Are you happy in your relationship?

If yes, do the damn thing. Christmas Eve mass is one day, 1-2 hours out of the year. How many hours does she invest in you and your relationship as a whole in one year? If it's more than 2 hours, then don't you think she deserves that as someone youve come to build a relationship with?

I'm the same as you. I went to private Catholic school for 8 years, went to church every Wednesday and Sunday, and my whole Filipino family are HEAVY GOD FEARING CATHOLICS. But even so, they let me explore my spirituality from the age of 14. I believe in God but I don't believe in the fear religion conditions you to feel. I went to all different kinds of congregations, masses, services to find who I was and my family respected me for it. Even though I did not agree with religion and the hypocrisy that is the Catholic Church, for the love and respect of my family - I prayed with them, went to mass with my parents for their birthdays/special holidays/weekends where I could wake up early enough. My parents were so happy when I would go with them and that really made it worth it. It's an hour or two a week. I spend more time scrolling through instagram or messing around in RS threads every day. Plus when I was going because I made the choice to, I found it to be much more fulfilling and even enjoyable. So much different than if you were fully resisting mentally and emotionally.

I have to stress that having an open attitude/mind and a open heart definitely helps. Compromise is an act of love. If you walk into a compromise filled with contempt and resentment I guarantee 100% you're only making it worse than it has to be.

My bf now was not baptized, was not raised religious at all... but even at family functions he knew to put his head down to pray before a meal from watching the rest of us. I don't think us having kids would be an issue because raising your child to be religious does not have to be all or nothing. As children, you teach them the foundations....but ultimately they should always have the freedom to decide their beliefs for themselves as they get older.

If I wanted to go to church I wouldnt hesitate to ask my partner. I've sat through hours....no, days/full weekends of bodybuilding competitions and shit he wants to do that bore me to my very core because that's what he's passionate about lol. It's lame to me but if he loves it and believes in it ill do it. I may even have fun in the moment.