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Originally Posted by 6793026

1) If you have a kid, you won't go to church, but if your wife wants the kid to go to church... do you have a say?
I'm fine with this, as long as we sit down with them and talk about (A) how the negative elements of religion are a no-no in my house and (B) how they don't have to go should they decide they don't want to. My wife would also have to be okay with it should they decide that.

2) Wife wants kids to get baptized... would u go? If the wife wants a religious name...
I would go. But like I said I would sit down with them and talk about how they are free to choose their own viewpoints/beliefs when they are mature enough.

3) Pay $3000 a month for Private Christian school (or *insert religion here); pay for uniforms....will you have a fight with wife and say FUCK YOU, I ain't paying for that shit.
Nope. No private school for my kids, Christian or otherwise. I went to a public school and I think being around children from all walks of life are an important part of growing up. Especially growing up in East Van before gentrification happened, I think learning "street smarts" is one of the biggest benefits of public school, and an element that lots of wealthier, sheltered children seriously lack. Plus, I don't want my children learning from a super biased point of view on things like science, history, especially sex education, etc.

4) Kids going to church and you don't.
See 1 and 2.

5) Would you wake up every Sunday to help your wife gets up at 6 AM so that the 2 & 4 yr old can get dressed to go to church.
I work shift work anyway so I'm used to waking up at odd times. No biggie.

6) Say your wife wants to donate to the homeless shelters because their church / religion is doing a fundraiser, will you say NO?
Once I move out and start working more consistently, I always wanted to volunteer at shelters. So I don't mind this at all.

7) Wife wants to give 10% of family pay cheque to church, will you say NO?
She can donate 10% of her pay cheque. I won't be. If the conversation is about helping others in need, I would be okay with donating 10% of my pay to a non-religious charitable organization however.

Originally Posted by MSREE

Yay filipinos!

Ps: the no meat on Christmas Eve sucks. Thats a new rule right? That would def be on the compromise list for me lol.

She's Eastern European, so I think her family tradition is that Christmas Eve is the "end" of Lent so to speak... so they don't eat meat the night before. Very hard for me because in MY family, we always do our huge feast and stuff our faces on Christmas Eve. If she's adamant on no meat in the house, I can always sneak off to the DQ across the street.

Originally Posted by Mr.HappySilp

Beside the fact that we been together for 8 months there are still no sex, close to 0 hugs and kisses (coz is against her beliefs).She is also against some of the stuff I do and wants me to stop coz is a sin (fraping is one of them or watching pron....).

Props to you because I could never do that. Luckily my girlfriend isn't quite that devout. IMO, the physical connection between two people is equally important as the mental, emotional, and psychological connection. Not just sex but things like kisses, hugs, cuddling, holding hands, etc. That's actually part of why I am against religion so much (not only Christianity but also Islam is guilty of this) and how it essentially tells people to not only deny their biological urges, but fear them and be ashamed of them. Especially for women. But that's another debate altogether....

Originally Posted by ForbiddenX

I was honestly in the same boat with going just to make her happy. I typically just went because it was more work to argue about it than to just shut my mouth for an hour (we lived 5 minutes walking distance from a church lol). And something always came up in the homily that would remind me why I hated this and she would have to listen to me rant. I also never liked the idea of "just going to be there", to me that defeats the whole purpose of mass. What's the point of me going if I'm not even participating?

Yeah, I think going to mass on Christmas Eve for me is something that will happen because it's wayyyyyy more work to argue about something that is so simple. Obviously my counter argument is similar to yours because I don't like the idea of just going for the sake of going. I see it similar to the gym, where you go and give 100% as opposed to just going for the sake of taking a mirror selfie or walking on the treadmill for 15 minutes. Kinda defeats the whole purpose, as you said.